Take the latest case of Malini Murmu's death.
For the past couple of days a lot is being talked about how her boy friend posted a status message about their break up on his facebook wall , following which the girl hit a depression and ended her life!
I watched the film, The Social Network last year and was shocked to learn how FB was invented and especially "The lack of sense" displayed by its founder ,Mark Zuckerberg!
FB aint a social network, its an anti-social network!
Because you can't trust the world to be at its best all by themselves! It's a jungle out there, and we so called humans are , in fact, just animals, and we are showing our true colours on sites such as FB!
In the first few minutes of the film, we see Mark dating a young girl, with whom he doesn't speak a sentence decently, ( I don't understand what happened to that breed called 'gentleman'...are they extinct??), and the girl gets fed up with his insults and weird behaviour and leaves. To which our youngest billionaire responds by blogging in the following terms,
"Erica Albright’s a bitch. Do you think
that’s because her family changed their
name from Albrecht or do you think it’s
because all B.U. girls are bitches?
For the record, she may look like a 34C
but she’s getting all kinds of help from
our friends at Victoria’s Secret. She’s a
34B, as in barely anything there. False
advertising."
In comparison to such language, Abhishek Dhan hasn't done half a crime!
Every newspaper, blog, comment is talking of thrashing Mr.Dhan. But wait a minute, is Abhishek the only person responsible for this free media which allows each one of us to take out our frustrations the way we want??
Is Abhishek responsible for Malini's weak EQ?
Do we know Malini left a note that said* (something to the effect of), My death is the best revenge for Abhishek.
It looks like both of them were very much in a mentally abusive relationship, while he posted a message on his wall to piss her off, she went ahead of it all and ended her life!
How can we lay the entire blame on a boy , who broke up with his girl friend?
How can we take justice in our hands?
All of us have fallen in love, and out of it...have faced break ups, or have broken up, if Abhishek Dhan is guilty for the death of his girl friend, so is each one of us.
People over the centuries have committed suicides for various reasons, yes, many of them did so because of cruel people and situations around them.
Life isn't easy on some and difficult on others, life is life, for all of us!
And we all know that some of the most revered leaders and social Heroes have come out of some of life's most difficult circumstances.
Now a days we want to win, but we don't want to suffer any pain.
There's no gain without any pain my darling, haven't you ever heard of that?
So let's toughen up our hearts, and face the world!
Yes life sucks!
Yes the society laughs at us when we are the weakest!
And people kick our ass when we most need them!
So what?
Have the guts to show your middle finger to those who laugh at you, if you don't have those guts, go ahead, hang yourselves!
Laws and social welfare/development can never cushion you so much till nobody can hurt you any more. People in all walks and societies will always try to hit at you with their best weapon, isn't life all about facing that challenge and being prepared and hitting back with whatever you have in you?
I want to make it clear here, that I'm not on Abhishek's side, nor am I on Malini's side.
But I do want to tell the likes of Malini, who might now think after how much trouble Abhishek has gotten himself into for being nasty to her, that this is the best revenge to such boyfriends, that please wait a minute and think, Life isn't about 1 love, life isn't about a couple of years..........some months down the lane Malini will be forgotten and so will be Abhishek!
There's nothing more important than your life,
It's a gift!
So treasure it please!
* http://news.oneindia.in/2011/09/22/iimb-girl-suicide-boyfriend-met-malini-before-death.html
I watched the film, The Social Network last year and was shocked to learn how FB was invented and especially "The lack of sense" displayed by its founder ,Mark Zuckerberg!
FB aint a social network, its an anti-social network!
Because you can't trust the world to be at its best all by themselves! It's a jungle out there, and we so called humans are , in fact, just animals, and we are showing our true colours on sites such as FB!
In the first few minutes of the film, we see Mark dating a young girl, with whom he doesn't speak a sentence decently, ( I don't understand what happened to that breed called 'gentleman'...are they extinct??), and the girl gets fed up with his insults and weird behaviour and leaves. To which our youngest billionaire responds by blogging in the following terms,
"Erica Albright’s a bitch. Do you think
that’s because her family changed their
name from Albrecht or do you think it’s
because all B.U. girls are bitches?
For the record, she may look like a 34C
but she’s getting all kinds of help from
our friends at Victoria’s Secret. She’s a
34B, as in barely anything there. False
advertising."
In comparison to such language, Abhishek Dhan hasn't done half a crime!
Every newspaper, blog, comment is talking of thrashing Mr.Dhan. But wait a minute, is Abhishek the only person responsible for this free media which allows each one of us to take out our frustrations the way we want??
Is Abhishek responsible for Malini's weak EQ?
Do we know Malini left a note that said* (something to the effect of), My death is the best revenge for Abhishek.
It looks like both of them were very much in a mentally abusive relationship, while he posted a message on his wall to piss her off, she went ahead of it all and ended her life!
How can we lay the entire blame on a boy , who broke up with his girl friend?
How can we take justice in our hands?
All of us have fallen in love, and out of it...have faced break ups, or have broken up, if Abhishek Dhan is guilty for the death of his girl friend, so is each one of us.
People over the centuries have committed suicides for various reasons, yes, many of them did so because of cruel people and situations around them.
Life isn't easy on some and difficult on others, life is life, for all of us!
And we all know that some of the most revered leaders and social Heroes have come out of some of life's most difficult circumstances.
Now a days we want to win, but we don't want to suffer any pain.
There's no gain without any pain my darling, haven't you ever heard of that?
So let's toughen up our hearts, and face the world!
Yes life sucks!
Yes the society laughs at us when we are the weakest!
And people kick our ass when we most need them!
So what?
Have the guts to show your middle finger to those who laugh at you, if you don't have those guts, go ahead, hang yourselves!
Laws and social welfare/development can never cushion you so much till nobody can hurt you any more. People in all walks and societies will always try to hit at you with their best weapon, isn't life all about facing that challenge and being prepared and hitting back with whatever you have in you?
I want to make it clear here, that I'm not on Abhishek's side, nor am I on Malini's side.
But I do want to tell the likes of Malini, who might now think after how much trouble Abhishek has gotten himself into for being nasty to her, that this is the best revenge to such boyfriends, that please wait a minute and think, Life isn't about 1 love, life isn't about a couple of years..........some months down the lane Malini will be forgotten and so will be Abhishek!
There's nothing more important than your life,
It's a gift!
So treasure it please!
* http://news.oneindia.in/2011/09/22/iimb-girl-suicide-boyfriend-met-malini-before-death.html
Chk out this FB page:
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I hope the boy doesn't fall a victim to these comments.
Also, this says a lot about this case. Check this out. http://www.indiblogger.in/forum/topic.php?id=10086
ReplyDeleteWell, I have to agree with you about FB. Somewhere down the line, the privacy in life no more exists or highly influenced by such social networking site. Some people are so addicted that they keep posting their each & every move, be it personal, or anyone else. And the worst thing - some even expect their friends, acquaintance like/comment on it! Perhaps, too much is too bad. We cannot completely blame FB or any social networking sites for that matter, but even people should know what they are posting!
ReplyDeleteComing to the incident, well, as you said, we should have a strong mentality. Or atleast storong enough to sustain such silly remarks! If everyone had taken the same step like malini, then perhaps we would have had atleast one such case everyday! If we are dumped doesn't mean that's the end of life!! Well, no offence, I am not blaming her or her ex-bf. May her soul R.I.P and more than that, may god give enough strength to her family.
Whether a social site or a broken relation, its always the way we take it - positively or negative.. and actions follow.
ReplyDeleteGuns can kill terrorists and freedom fighters without differentiating. Doesnt mean we blame the guns.
I agree Pramesh.
ReplyDeleteBut just as you need a licence to possess a gun, because it is a dangerous weapon, we might need to regulate our mediums of communications, just to take maximum precautions without disturbing our right to free speech and expression.
My take on the whole thing?
ReplyDeleteShe should be brought back with Fringe science and then shot dead in front of a firing squad for not valuing her life. She didn't realize that it was not hers to squander it away on revenge (of all things). Supporting her or feeling sorry for her is like agreeing what she did was right, that life is very puny.
Maybe what he did was wrong but the poor guy did not do anything new, bf's and gf's have been doing stuff like this for eons now; he just made the mistake of going out with a psychopath.
Very few people are taking this view PeeVee, everyone is blindly in support of her death. After all, in our country death is valued more than life!
ReplyDeletelovely take on this whole shit....while taking her own life just to take "revenge" on her estranged bf, not even once did she think of the ppl she wud b hurting like her family??
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