Tuesday, March 18, 2014

Not afraid of the dark!



I am working in an AC office the whole day and am out in some remote village the whole night!
That's how my life is this month of March!
If my employer reads about this post, I might face some issues, but well...that's the truth!

I feel like a journo, sleep deprived and exhausted but excited like hell! There's this rush of feelings and energy and all I can do is just get up and go! Mamma asks me to call it a day and come home and rest for a while, and I too think, yeah man! It's getting a bit too difficult to handle! But I would hate to stop this adventure now that it has started!

A few weeks back I attended "Musal dance" at Chandor. All I get is a call , mostly from Sangam, "There's this thing happening here tonight, let's go!" "Okay let's go!" and we are on it! If my parents were those doubting types, always messing me up with "Yeh samaaj kya sochega? log kya kahenge?" questions, then this adventure of life wouldn't have been possible! 
I can't imagine my folks asking me to get home by 8 pm! 
I just can not get home by 8 pm!
All the fun starts after 8 pm!
And yes, fun doesn't mean only fun with boys, or fun with drinks! There's a lot more to the night life of Goa out there, especially in this month of March which is culturally very significant!

The interesting part is that our society does not allow their girls to explore the nights! That makes me a rare species! 

I am not afraid of the dark, and I am not afraid of roaming around at nights. That doesn't mean I am careless about my safety. I roam around with people I trust, and I do not go alone in dark corners.  But yes I do get stared at, like they are judging my character! I have been followed and groped, like that doesn't happen in the day in the middle of a crowded street in India! In fact I have been touched inappropriately in the day more often. When things like these happen I have had the courage to scream, push and kick! But these are extremely rare incidents, and when they happened they tested my courage, they taught me how to be a fighter, so yes, they were important in making me who I am!

Women in India need to stop being so afraid of the dark! It's a fear systematically created by the society. We have to go out there and see for ourselves what it is like! It's fun....it's calm, quiet and peaceful! It's almost like we live only 12 hours a day, those 12 hours which are lighted! Maybe at the most 15 hours....but after that? We are chained to our walls or our wards! Why? God gave me 24 hours a day, that includes the night! Why should I limit my freedom only to the day? 

So question! 
Find people who think alike!
Find support!
Rebel and upset your folks!
Our culture needs to change! And if that has to start, every woman needs to change!
Change does not happen by sitting quiet! And it does not happen by being "obedient"! 
We need the disobedience moment out here!

I get the "dislike" look from many elders most of the times. In fact it is extremely rare to find an elderly person who  opens his heart to me. People come with their agenda's and when they meet someone who does not sign up on their agenda they show complete displeasure!

So ,

Dear world,

My life has my agenda with it's priorities!
I know I don't make you very comfortable....but that is your problem, not mine!
Stop suppressing people and trying to control them to suit your requirements to make yourself happy!
"To make myself happy" is my fundamental right to life under article 21, as long as I don't harm anybody legally, all is well!
Don't think pointing out my mistakes makes me weak in front of you!
Like you never made any mistakes anytime!
Like you ever dared to take any chance in the first place!
I am a woman, and if you think I am weak you are mistaken! For it is only I who has been blessed with the capacity to produce a 1000 more like me! And I will make more like me.....this is just the beginning!

With love, passion and a fight (if that's the language you understand)
Janaki



And as a closing note, a quote by Napoleon Hill, " The majority of people permit relatives, friends and the public at large to so influence them that they cannot live their own lives, because they fear criticism'.


Chadar Trek- Part 2

"Madam, yahaan zanskaar pe sardi mein ana chahiye! Maza ayega aapko!"
( Madam come to Zanskaar in the winters! You will have fun!)

We were preparing to get into the raft at Zanskaar for river rafting, this was in July 2012.

"Kyun? sardi mein toh suna hai yahan bohot thand hoti hai! Kuch karne ke liye hota nahi!"
( Why? I have heard that it's very cold here around winters! One can't do much!)

"Yeh Zanskaar saarithand mein jam jaati hai! Uspe trekking kar sakte hain!"
( This Zanskaar freezes and you can trek on it!)


The famous Chadar trek happens on a river called Zanskaar in winters when the river freezes. For what Chadar trek is like in detail, one can easily google it. So I won't waste my time writing about stuff that is already available online. And I will stick to my story, as it happened!

Initially we wanted to go trekking on our own, but we are from the coast and have no clue about what minus temperatures are like and what to do on snow, so opted to join an organisation with experience in these matters!

HUGE MISTAKE!!!

The best thing to do is to go to Leh a few days in advance and get a local guide, a small team of maybe around 6 people who are fit for trekking and do the trek!
Whether it is TTH or IH, teams of 20 people with 10 porters is too large for a delicate trek like the Chadar!

We were 11 people initially who started off from Goa for the trek. People kept dropping out along the way for various reasons. You can not force people in these matters, it's a personal decision and I believe in respecting it!

To say the least, we all were over excited about Chadar! The cold, the long list of equipment, fitness levels, preparation...there was so much to buy, the budget consistently kept going out of hand from the moment we signed up for the trek!

Now that I have been there, this is the list of things you do need: We were given a 20 point list that took 3 months of our time in whatsapp discussions as to what we really need and what we don't, where do we buy it and at what price! Damn! The sort of discussions that happened right from which flights to book at what price, to what mode of transport to take, which online shopping sites and what discounts and when the discounts are the best.......At a point I thought I could choose this as a ph.D topic and go ahead for the next 5 years researching! The numerous phone calls, misunderstandings, meetings, chain mails, and shouting! Anyway......

1. Gumboots: Black. Cost around 350 Rs. You easily find them in Leh market. Buy one size bigger than your current size. I am size 5, I bought size 6 and yet they were a bit tight. In the cold when you wear the boots, your feet freeze, feet go numb! For a moment you feel you may get a frostbite....you may get one! You can never really say.,...but try to wriggle your toes, and keep walking. The heat generated will warm your toes.
2. Trekking Pole: One:  Some people say get 2 poles, not necessary! ( Rs.320)
3. Camera: Thanks to Sharvani for taking the trouble to carry her DSLR the whole way! She is the reason we got some great shots!The views are certainly breath taking! But a simple point and shoot camera can make it easy and fast!
4. Hot water flask: A must: Drinking cold water in that cold weather is out of question! You must drink hot water at all times. If you even as much as take a few sips of cold water, be sure to have a bad throat for several weeks post Chadar!
5. Sports shoes/ closed shoes: To wear on campsite. Tying laces is a big pain. Because in order to tie laces, we had to remove our gloves, and it was so damn cold that our fingers would freeze in under a minute's time. So most of the times I went around without tying the laces!
6. Bag: If you can not carry your own weight, please do not be bothered to carry a bag! The best thing to do is to have a huge bag and stuff 3 people's belongings in it and let the porter's carry it. You just carry a small bag with water and some dry fruits, and camera!
7. Woolens and other warm clothes:
  • Woolen socks: 4 pairs ;
  • Cotton socks 3 pairs
  • Woolen gloves: 1 pair; 
  • 1 Heavy down jacket
  • 1 fleece jacket
  • 3 pairs of thermals
  • Balaclava for head, and some sort of neck and mouth piece
8. Waterproof Clothing :
  • At least 1 waterproof pant! A must! And no I don't mean a raincoat pant. Waterproof pants have a fleece layering inside so it keeps you warm too. You easily find woolens and all other equipment in Leh market at very good cheap rates, do not be bothered to buy stuff online!
  • Waterproof gloves: 1 pair
  • Raincoat or plastic pant
9. Toiletries:
  • Wet wipes and tissue paper: wet wipes freeze and become wet solid hard sheets, but if you warm it a bit , it's good to use!
  • Sunscreen and moisturizers and lip balms: Use liberally and often!
  • Other stuff is as per your requirement.
10. Head Torch: I feel this is very important! Helps a lot inside the tent , especially when you are trying to get inside the double layered sleeping bag!( Rs.120-180 on e-bay)
11. Emergency Kit: Important medications: For cough, cold, head ache and pain and a few band aids and tapes. Stitching kit and a Swiss knife!
12: Sunglasses

Most of us had unnecessarily heavy bags! You don't need T-shirts , you can do with only thermals there. You don't take a bath so there is no question of changing inner clothes, just carry an extra pair in case you happen to fall and get wet somewhere! You don't need too much of dry fruits! The porters carry enough food and you are fed often, just one packet of chocolates would be good.



1 day before starting the journey
We had discussed this journey so many times and imagined stuff for so long sitting back  home that by the time it was a week to go for the journey to begin, I was bored! What can possible happen now? Everything was thought over, well planned....nothing was left to chance!

But alas!

Winter’s in Leh are unpredictable! A day before our journey was to start we got a call from Go Air that our flights were cancelled due to a technical hitch! Ours was a Mumbai to Leh flight! Panic stuck! The next 5 hours were spent in re planning the whole journey.

I had left a lot of work to be done at  the last minute, due to the cancellation of the flight I had to leave a day in advance. We somehow managed packing and left for Mumbai, spent the whole night on the Mumbai airport!
By the way, it happened so many times that our flights got cancelled on this journey, that the airport became our second home! I ended up meeting many interesting people and had some memorable conversations! 

One word of advice: Keep an open mind to the kind of people you meet! They are all strangers and you can’t look at everyone with suspicion. The only thing you can do is to take them at face value.

On Chadar, we met people who were boasting about their trekking experience, and some others who had 35 years of experience behind them and were very quiet! There was me who did not want to believe anybody and wanted to see for myself what it is like, and some others who believed in trusting the experience of the elders! 

There was Bharat who had an issue with food, Amar who couldn’t go to sleep without playing music on his loudspeakers in the tent, Pranali who struggled with her bag, Sangam who really got scared for a while, Caslino who struggled with the tent and the sleeping bags since he is 6’4’’ tall and couldn’t fit into any equipment! 

There was Leena who was a great sport, and Abhi who caught cold because he left his head open in spite of telling him several times to keep it closed! There was Komal who gave us back up support,  Shenoy who sat quiet most of the times but just said a sentence once in a while that cracked everyone up, and Sharvani who mingled and mixed with everyone throughout the journey!

We met Mr. Manmohan Singh! Yes....we met this guy at our guest house. Nice quiet fellow! We asked him his name he said call me “Mac”. “But is that your real name or pet name?”

“ My real is Manmohan Singh but don’t call me that, it’s kinda awkward because people turn around to look.”
And unfortunately that is what I did. I forgot his pet name, saw him on the airport and didn’t know how to catch his attention except for calling out to him. And I called him across the Leh airport corridor, “Manmohan Singh!” I was loud and clear! For a few seconds the whole airport went quiet! Several flights were cancelled due to heavy snowfall and  the airport was crowded with people. I made the whole place go into a drop dead silence mode for a few tense moments! Everyone looked at me except Mac who purposely looked into another direction. I called out again, more people looked and Mac realised that if he doesn’t look in my direction I wouldn’t stop yelling, so he looked and all I could do is give a silly grin to which he smiled back!


Delhi Airport: This is another interesting story! Due to snowfall ,flights were constantly getting cancelled. At one point half of our group got through, but the other half were stranded with no boarding pass available to hand over to them. If they did not make it on the next flight they would miss the whole trek. Tension was high and Sharvani was in the group that got stranded behind. We waited on the other side, while Sharvani and a few others picked up serious arguments with the Go Air ground crew! People were screaming, it was a rebellion scene! While Sharvani tested her vocal chords in shouting slogans against Go Air, Pranali, Bharat and Shenoy sat behind guarding the luggage and got busy with their own gossip!
“What? You guys don’t want to come for the trek? What you sitting down there warming your ass? Get up! Shout!” Sharvani was training people to learn to fight for their rights!

A journey teaches you a lot! It’s not just about reaching the destination!

And after all this, we finally reached Leh! It was announced in the flight that the temperature outside is around -10 degrees. We were excited to experience the cold. All that speculation and imagination was going to actually turn into a reality! So I stepped out of the aircraft...
First 5 minutes: Woaah! It’s like stepping into a freezer! It’s cold! It’s nice!
Next 5 minutes: Fingers are going cold , where are the gloves? Wear the thermals, start covering yourself up!
Next 15 minutes: Damn it! Some body parts are so cold, you are going numb!

Get oriented to Leh: The day you arrive in Leh, please go to sleep! It’s nice, it’s cold and you are excited, all true! But just tuck yourself in and doze off!
Last time I did no such thing. I did not take rest, just kept popping in Diamox every 12 hours!
Result? 
Some 205 kms from leh town and I suddenly go blind! Altitude sickness tablets are very powerful. One must not take them without prescription. I took around 6 of them, for 3 days continuously. When you take such tablets you have to keep yourself well hydrated and sleep well. But I did not know all that then. First 18 hours I had no medical help! I was too far off from civilisation to see a specialist. I couldn’t see anything! You might think it as a joke.....but When I couldn’t see for more than 18 hours I broke down and started to cry! Plus Caslino who was driving me to Leh hospital, got stuck on the way as the Bullet broke down. A French woman gave me the lift to the hospital, and when I somehow got myself inside, I was told that the doctor has just left for his private clinic which is up the market. 

There is a huge wall that connects the Leh hospital and the main market, I was helped by a nurse till the wall, and I climbed up the whole way by just feeling the wall and asking people for help. I somehow got myself into the clinic and the doctor checked my eyes and said there was nothing wrong. But I couldn’t trust him, why else coudn't I see anything? I did not know then that it was the Diamox which was causing this. 

I have never felt so helpless my whole life! I thanked the doctor and got out. My mobile battery had conked off, and I did not know how to get myself to my guest house. 

But do you know how lucky I am?
While I struggled outside the clinic, a guy I had met in Bangalore the first day when I was leaving for Leh spotted me! We had just met once on Yashwantpur railway station. It was a chance meeting! And he helped me to my guesthouse!

Well! This was way back in 2012! But that is what Ladakh is.....a land full of possibilities!



Friday, March 14, 2014

To Ladakh.....With Love


 Dear Ladakh,

Every time I come to you, 
you take something away from me!
You took away my fears!

Every time I fall in love with you,
You give me something to hold on to,
You gave me the courage to dream again!

Every time I sought to connect my soul with you,
You opened me up to a part of me I never knew existed!

 
 
 
 
Thank you!
For your lessons!
For your kindness!
For your beauty!
For your innocence!

With Love

Janaki

 
 
 
All these days, I have been desperately searching for words to write about the Chadar Trek! I can not claim I have found them....but through this search of finding words to describe my experience, I found lost strings to my own heart! 

There is something mystical about that land....the first time I went there with my friends, one friend came back and resigned from his regular job and took a  decision that changed him and his life!
This second time I went there, another friend came back and resigned!
And about me?
I am still working, but I know that something deep down has changed....
The last few years I have been living my life on an emergency mode! I didn't want to think about the future, just live for today. Though this attitude is great in the short term, it doesn't help much in the long run!


When I was on the train , coming back from Delhi, I realized that my emergency is finally over!
Those walls I built around me have gone! My heart is open, those fears have left me, I can live again!

What can I say about my experience in ladakh this winter?

That my mom said when I was leaving, "Don't go blind this time!"....yes! The first time I went to Ladakh, I overdosed myself on Diamox, the altitude sickness tablet and went blind for 36 hours! One of the worst time of my life!

The whole excitement of what -30 degrees Celsius is!! 

How cold is -30 degrees really? 
What is it like to walk on a frozen river?
What is it like when the frozen layer starts to crack?

That un-named feeling of seeing a youthful heavy river flowing underneath a glassy layer of ice!
 
That cracking sound of ice when you step on to it, like you are breaking a million glasses in one moment!
 
That peaceful snow covered narrow gorge one day, and a complete war zone look the next day when the frozen layer breaks and the river aggressively starts making its way out, like the breaking of a bird's egg, with the newborn desperate to take its first breath, to see the life outside!

Million feelings, several experiences!

If you ask me to talk about my experiences, it's like asking me too much!
Because Ladakh this time wasn't just some trip, it wasn't just some trek, it was a very private experience! And at every point of me writing about my experience, many of my feelings will flow in....I am worried I might say too much, if I do....all I can say is it's all true! I felt it and I lived it!

This will be a short 4 post series of Ladakh in winters!
This one is the 1st!

So are you ready to take this journey again with me?
 

 


Special Thanks to all my friends without whom this journey, this experience and this post wouldn't have happened!
For Photographs: Thanks to: Sharvani Pinge, Amar Kolmule, Bharat Naik, Caslino Pereira and Leena Patil!
 

Sunday, March 2, 2014

On the go!

I used to take minimum 2 hours to write a post 2 years back! I would write, proof read it, make changes...the whole process was slow, enjoyable and satisfying. But now who has the time to read and write? I have ended up not writing for such a long time. I know no one has particularly missed my writing as much as me. 

So now I am going to practice "On the go writing". I shall follow the "KISS" principle! Keep it Short & Simple! Five para's a post- max! I miss story writing more than anything else....there is just no time to sit and wonder and imagine! No time to brood over anything, no time to cry, it's just a "Get up & run" culture! I won't say I hate it! It's actually good because "No moment is worth more than what it really is.... a moment!"

And there are so many such wonderful moments I experience every day that I would love to share them with the world. And that is why I am going to write. This year I am going to write about being single, about traveling to Ladakh with friends in winters and living in extreme cold, about traveling solo, about trying so hard to balance my so many needs- that dance exam I want to take, that strong inner voice asking me to give back to the society, the script for the play I wrote that hasn't yet gone on the floor, the need for companionship and also the need to maintain my individuality......this constant tussle going on inside of me is nerve wrecking! But this is me!

When I was younger I hated the fact that there were too many things that were pulling me in too many directions. Now I am old enough to understand that some people are just programmed that way. This doesn't make me any less committed to anything I want to do. The whole challenge is to learn to juggle! And yes, somethings do get dropped off and I feel sad about it. But without wasting much time I need to find a substitute to replace the loss and carry on with the juggle.

Someone once gave me a piece of their practical advice, "This won't pay your bills, so don't waste time on it!" True! And I went into this phase where I asked "Why should I bother to write?" 
But not writing is eating into me and that horrible feeling only I know. So I will write! Let the bills accumulate for a while, and let me waste my time on this rather than on whatsapp, FB, G+, a few family functions and a few outings with friends!







Thursday, January 2, 2014

Whose dream are we living?

Once upon a time there lived a man who was extremely ambitious!
His friends, relatives, brothers ....all belonged to that same old era where they wanted to sit back and enjoy their lives doing absolutely nothing!
They seemed to be happy with whatever they had or did not have!
He hated their lifestyle!
No goals, no aims, no direction to life!
What a waste of time and resources he thought!

So he sat down and made a plan! Since he was the only one interested in actually doing something......nobody disturbed him! Slowly and patiently he first caught hold of the village kids and taught them a new lesson! That life is a race! And you must run if you want to survive!

As years rolled by the village started to change, as the kids grew up they wanted to do more. They were not happy with whatever that was offered to them, whatever that was available to them....something always seemed to stress them out and disturb them....they kept saying, "There's more to life than this!" So they kept searching, losing their night sleep, they kept wandering!

The old ambitious man was happy! He had definitely changed a generation! This new generation , unlike their forefathers, did not know what it means to sit down and enjoy a cup of coffee....did not know what is "quality time" with family...they felt that was a complete waste of time!

The old ambitious man died in peace and left generations and generations behind , made of people who are forever hungry, searching for something called "Happiness" and dying in distress!

Tuesday, November 19, 2013

The Proposal that wasn't!

How many times in your life do you really come across that face that takes your breath away?
This post is dedicated to that face, that took my breath away!




Time: 10 am
Location: Silk Board, Bengaluru


This whole month, in fact the whole week had been a nightmare for Neha! Starting with misunderstandings with her best friend, work load that she couldn't handle and her mom's constant bickering about her late nights and parties! Add to that the pollution and the pathetic traffic condition in Bengaluru....and here she was stuck at the signal! As always!

Her whatsapp status read "Worst month ever!", her brother had commented , "This month is not over yet...."
"What can 3 days do?", she lamented.

She stepped into her office at 11.45. She knew she was late for the meeting. Her classic "late style" was coined "Latebee" in the office. And her Boss had joked and sometimes seriously threatened that if she tried to leave the job and applied to a new place and he gets a call for a feedback on her, he would definitely mention the notorious position she had attained. Neha showed as if she didn't care about what he said, but secretly she knew that it was the thing that made her stick to the company for 3 long years! She kept hoping she would change and leave on a good note, her boss, Sandeep was convinced she never would!

Little Dreams, Little struggles!

As a professional graphic designer, she was doing just about okay. Her personal life was clouded with broken relationships. Her friend circle was rocking but that portion of her life had taken a beating too with some recent misunderstandings with her best friend over her brother. She was putting on weight with the stress, but somehow her naughty smile could shroud any trouble from most people.

It was a slow day at office. Smita came to her desk 15 minutes before their lunch time.
" What? It's just 12.30! I came to office like half an hour back! I don't want Sandeep to roll his eyes when he sees me gone so soon....I am worried those eyes will pop out of the sockets one of these days!"

"Come ya....I am hungry, And the weather is gloomy, And work ain't great And I have some interesting news to tell you! Come..". There was that twinkle in Smita's eyes that Neha couldn't miss.

"Interesting news? What interesting news can married women make? OMG! Don't tell me, you are having an affair?"

"Shut up!", Smita pulled Neha's hand and before she knew it they were both headed for the canteen.
"So..? What's the interesting news?"
" Adi drew a smiley today!" Adi was Smita's 3 year old son!
" Wha...the..?? That's news? Smita you bitch!"

They sat at their usual corner...since they had arrived 15 minutes  before their time, the crowd around was full of unfamiliar faces.

"It's almost like being a part of a new work place. We must do this more often.....keep changing the timings!" , Smita said in between the bites.

Neha looked up from the plate to look around, from the far corner, she saw a guy enter the canteen with a young school girl.

How many times in your life do you really come across that face that takes your breath away?
It was that face!
There definitely is something deeper or some kind of high level chemical combination that makes a person more attractive to one individual in comparison to the others! They might not be the most good looking faces, but they definitely are the most attractive for reasons beyond our understanding.

And at that moment, all that Neha knew was that she didn't want to take her eyes off that guy.
Smita didn't ask, she simply followed her friend's gaze!
"I told you... I have an interesting news!", Smita said.
"You know him?"
"Who do you think is the father of Adi?"
"Shut up! I am serious....do you know who he is?"
" Looking at the way he is behaving with that school girl, I can tell, he is her father! Yes I know him Neha....That man is that girl's father! Stop staring at him!"

The subject of the conversation had now picked up the girl in his arms and he went from stall to stall probably asking inquiring what she wanted to eat.

" All good guys are either married or committed Neha! I told you....your time is running out!"
Neha shot Smita a disappointed look!
" Thank you....all those comments have really helped Smita! Why can't you let me enjoy a piece of art with all my heart and desire...?"
"And lust?"
"Whatever! You know what, I will get nowhere sitting here with you.... I must make a move!" She got up with her plate. Smita was no more in her joking mood now, " Are you serious Neha? That man seems to be married! Stay off!"
" I wouldn't know that until I ask him, will I?"
"Gosh I hate you single women! I hate you!"

Neha kept her tray at the dustbin and walked to the table where the man sat with the girl.
As she walked towards him and got closer and closer, her mind started losing it's brilliance more rapidly...it was almost as if she was going dumb or something...she didn't know why she was walking towards him anymore...but she kept walking till she stood right besides his table.

He looked up at her with a questioning expression.
She kept staring in response.
"Yes?" He asked finally, "May I help you?" She asked him.

He smiled, "Looks like you are the one who needs help at the moment?"

Damn! He wasn't just plain attractive, he was smart and confident as well! And he had a very soothing voice that made her mind almost still, that state that she hadn't even achieved in all those years of Yoga classes!

"Daddy, who is she?" The school girl asked!
Smita's guess was correct.
" Hmm...I dunno ...let's ask her? Do you want to ask her?"
"What is your name Miss?" The cute girl asked in a cute voice.

"Neha...My name is Neha, what is yours?"
"Daddy can I tell her my name?"
"Of course you should...go ahead!"
" My name is Ira, I am studying in the 2nd standard at Green Wood High!"

"Would you like to take a seat Neha?", Daddy asked.
Neha took a deep breath, smiled at Ira and politely took a chair.

Ira got busy with her pizza, and her daddy turned to look at Neha. He didn't say anything...but she could tell that he was waiting. So Neha looked at her fingers for a while, that's what she did when she got really nervous. Then she looked at her table where Smita waited for her, then she thought about that rush of emotions she had felt when she saw him enter the canteen.

" I just came to say a Thank you."
"Thank you? For what?"

" For the rush of positive feelings that I felt when I looked at you! I.....don't know if I make sense to you at all...but.... this whole month has been very difficult on me. And in these hard times, I really look for even that small bit of light that can brighten up my life! And today, you were my light! So the whole month wasn't that bad after all....what I am trying to say is...sir...you are extremely extremely attractive and I ....hmm...owed it to myself....to say it to you...If you were probably single, I would , you know, like to take things forward....but I understand that things aren't the way I would like them to be....but that doesn't mean I can't tell you how I feel, right?"

Daddy smiled, " Wow! The next generation seriously is fast and frank! I like that! Probably my Ira will do something like this some day too...who can tell?"

Both of them smiled.

Neha got up from her seat, "I gotta go now....but yeah...thanks...and you are a blessed man! You are!"

She got up to leave, "Hey Neha, My name is Ajay. I work in Block B here. And thanks to you too, you...you..pretty much came as a surprise and made my day too! See you around!"

Neha smiled politely, she waved a bye to Ira and walked back to where Smita sat.

Neha could tell that Smita's curiosity was taking the better of her, " What the hell did you say to him?"
"What do you think?" Neha asked teasingly.
"I don't want to think anything....what was that? What happened?"
"His name is Ajay, and you were right he is her daddy!"
"And?"
"He works in Block B!"
"And?"
"And what? That's it!"
" That's it? That was why you went up to him? Stupid girl!"
"Hey , wait a minute, you don't get to judge me based on your stupid notions of life okay? I live my life fully! If I feel something I say so. So I said what I felt about him. I don't play every move wanting to win! There is joy in being truthful to yourself, and there is joy in accepting life as it comes. That moment that me and Ajay had there, it is mine to treasure and mine alone..that is what I take back home..you get nothing other than standing on the sidelines and commenting!"

"I don't want any time with him, I am happy with my life and with my husband!"
"I know you are...and I am happy with my life, and the spark of brilliance that it has for me in store sometimes. This small conversation with Ajay is to me what Adi's stupid smiley drawing is to you, okay?"

"Hmm...Point well made! Point noted Madam! Now can we go, or you want to have Sandeep's eyeballs for dessert?"

Neha calmed down and smiled.

"Let's go!"

"Hopefully tomorrow you will meet Ajay's younger unmarried version...who can say? At least now you know what you absolutely are ready for....that sort of guy...you know even having an idea about what you want is much better than being sure of nothing....." And Smita went on blabbering, and both of them walked out of the canteen.






















Saturday, September 22, 2012

Some day, in the near future....

Some day, in the near future, I will invite all the amazing friends I've made over the past few years, especially those I have telephonic conversations and discussions with, from places far away, to come and spend an evening with me.....an evening that extends into the night and we should chat until morning, by the sea, on a lovely calm Goan beach....

This has been a recurring wish, and a dream too.

Nothing excites me more than to have the deepest conversations with a seeming stranger, nothing amazes more than seeing such friendships grow over time and experience the meeting of the minds...

Hoping the years to come bring into my life more wonderful people I can talk to and connect to.

Saturday, August 11, 2012

How I got LEH'd! ( Part 4)


Let's talk of the injuries , shall we?

Even before we started riding, the first to get injured was me! How? You may wonder!
The first night when we got the bikes , we went to the hirer's agency to collect the helmets. We were handed our helmets, and just then I saw this really cute, fluffy cat on the pavement, running, confused. And that was the first cat I spotted in Leh, and I love cats, and this one was big and furry and I was just about to say, "Oh my sweety pie", and this cat jumped on the road, and there was this speeding jeep I saw, and the last scene I saw was the cat was inches from the tire......and I couldn't take it anymore so I tried to hide my face in my hands, but there was the helmet in my hands and I hit my nose really hard on the helmet....and you do know how much it hurts when your nose hits, don't you?

For some 30 seconds I stood there burying my head in my hands, my friends thought I had started crying thinking the cat is hit and they started pacifying me, but I couldn't think, couldn't lift my head! The pain was unbearable! When I did look up, and told my friends that my nose was hurt, Rahul ( The dialogue king that he is) remarked ( in marathi), " Maanjar vachle pann naak gele!" ( means "We saved the cat but we lost the nose").

No! This is not his original dialogue. The story behind the dialogue goes back to centuries, it goes back to Maharashtra, to the battle of Sinhagad! Shivaji's fort "Kondana" ( later named Sinhagad) was captured by the Mughals, and the Marathas fought hard to get it back. But in that battle, Shivaji lost his closest friend, Tanaji Malusare. Upon hearing the capture of the fort but the loss of his closest friend, Shivaji is said to have remarked, " Gad aala, pann Sinha gela" ( We captured the fort but we lost the lion).

This nose injury created so much of a problem! I couldn't wear goggles because of it, and without goggles it's really difficult to face the harsh sun rays in Leh. So I had to wear the goggles, and that pain turned into a headache, and I misinterpreted it as altitude sickness and popped in another Diamox!

Caslino's broken finger: A few weeks before we started for Leh, these boys had a wild party by the pool side. All the boys jumped into the pool except Caslino, excited and drunk as they were, all of them pounced on Caslino and started pulling him inside the pool! Caslino did not get into the pool till the end, but his finger broke in the process. He did all the riding with that broken finger and a lot of Iodex spray!

Day 5:  Leh Market and the search for the local beer!

We took a break on the 5th day, went around the Leh market, did some shopping!

Tip Time: If you are on a tight budget, please do not buy jewellery, clothes in Leh. They are expensive, and way above market price in comparison to the rest of India. Souvenirs are expensive too. But I did buy a musical bowl, because it's Leh speciality, you could buy prayer wheels too.

We, the girls blew up money on silver jewellery and bracelets! Silver jewellery is priced at 60% above market price! Tibetan markets have the costliest stuff. You can get the same stuff on road side stalls. Go around and ask the prices at different stalls before you buy.

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Those are not genuine smiles!
This photo is clicked just after we realised we paid way above market price for those cute rings and pretty earrings we  loved just a few hours back when we bought it! Now....we don't know anymore!

The Ladakhi Beer: Our boys asked across the market for the locally made beer, "Chang", but could not find a bottle. It is very difficult to find liquor and meat in Leh. Wherever we went, whichever restaurant, the first question the boys would ask was, " Chang hai kya?" , after a few such incidences, I was fed up!

Me: You've never had beer in your life that you keep asking every Tom Dick and Harry for it? They all are saying a no, it's not available! Get the message and stop asking!
Vignesh: We are not bagging for beer, we are asking for it and we are going to pay for it! Got it? And we like to taste the culture of the land, not just "see" it like you do. You stick to your continental meals, kindly keep the 'experimentation with food and drinks' departments with us ,okay?
Rahul: Okay Maatey?

Rahul teased. Rahul is like an echo of Vignesh. I ask Rahul, "Rahul, are you confident of riding the bike?"
Vignesh replies, " Yes he is." and Rahul repeats after him, "I am".
I ask Rahul, " What would you have for breakfast?", Vignesh shouts from somewhere in the background, "Muesli", and Rahul tells me, "Muesli."

Finally one day I told Rahul, "Please , use your head at least once a day, otherwise it will corrode!"
To which he replies, " Maanjar vachle pann naak gele" was my dialogue!
'Now I know what he uses his head for', I thought.

"It's useless talking to them", I said to myself and got busy on my burger while they ate something Tibetan! I know I'm missing out on the whole experience by not eating the food of the land. But I am extremely orthodox in food matters, and I'm adamant about it too.

 Ladakh + Goa connection:

Everywhere we went in the market, the Ladakhi's recognised Konkani and asked us if we were Goans. It turns out that the Ladakhi's own shops and restaurants in Goa during the Goan tourist season till April and they go back for Leh season from May to October and return back to Goa for tourist season starting November. So the stuff you'll find in Leh market is the same you find in Goa except for the woolens. And you get a cheaper rate for clothes in Goa. ( Go Goa 365 days a year! Issued in public interest by Goa Tourism Department!) :-)


Ladakhi people is the highlight of Ladakh! They are warm, friendly and very jolly. You will see the kids and the adults smiling at you, waving and greeting you with " Julay" everywhere. Julay means Hello, it also means Bye and Thank you. So you could keep saying it.

Day 6 and 7 : Nubra Valley, Khardung La, and the story of How I went blind!

Nubra is a very  pretty valley! There are a number of places to visit in Nubra and the whole round trip covers around 375 kms. In order to get to Nubra one has to cross the highest motorable Pass, The Khardung La at 18, 380 ft.

So there went in my last Diamox before we started for Nubra. After doing Pangong , all of us had got very confident, also we had found what Teju wanted! The Bajaj Avenger! After almost having her bum bones crushed on Pulsar, she told us she would rather ride a separate bike. And the only bike that is low enough to accommodate her is an Avenger. We spent 4 hours in Leh market trying to find an Avenger, but did not. Finally it came to a point where the group started discussing whether we should scrap the plan altogether.

I prayed and ran across the hiring shops, finally at 8.00pm, there it was....a brand new Avenger on the road side. I ran towards it and asked some guys who were standing close to it, " yeh kiska bike hai?"
They pointed at a shop and I ran in.
"Julay", I said. Smiling a bit too much with the excitement levels rising inside me.
The bike hirer got a bit conscious with my smile, "Julay", he replied cautiously.
" The Bajaj Avenger parked outside,  is that your bike?"
"Yes ma'am that is my bike."
"Is it on hire?"
"Yes ma'am it is."
"Is it taken?"
"Not yet ma'am."
"Then I want it!", I said with a greedy grin.
"Hmm......I'm not sure!",
"Wha??"

"Wait a min." I told him.

I ran outside and called Vignesh and told him what had just happened, " You don't do the talking! You'll blow it, let me talk to him!"
Me: What do you mean I'll blow it? I found the bike! Not you!

Somewhere in the background I heard Sharvani asking him to hurry up and not waste more time in arguments, so he got to the shop in 5mins. And when he was just entering the shop , told me, "Stay out!", "Get lost!" I replied.

The Hirer, when he heard that Teju was to ride it ,was a bit worried. It was a brand new bike after all.
"Is it safe with her?", He asked.
"You be sure of that. Let me take you for a ride." Teju took him for the test ride and when they got back, he handed her the keys confidently, and told us, "In my 7 years of experience in hiring bikes, this is the first Indian lady I've met who rides one so well! Best of Luck!".

Khardung La:

 

We exhibited the extent of our "Being Tourist Madness" here! We climbed the slippery, snow covered mountain top once we were at Khardung La, we had series of snow fights and pushing and pulling around. By the end of it, we were tired, wet and exhausted, but not sick :-)

( Following is an unedited video. For those who know Konkani, please excuse my language!)

 There were so many tourists who were having a hard time dealing with the altitude, many of them were resting in the restaurants. I did not see anybody as happy as we were with the altitude, the lack of oxygen, the chilly winds and the slippery roads- I silently thanked the makers of Diamox!

The ride downhill from there was gruelling, a bit boring, a bit harsh! It's long, and curvy and it takes quite some time to reach the beautiful valley. It tests one's patience! When we descended the hills ,we stopped for  a tea break at a small shop, and the first question Vignesh asked the shopwala was not, "Get us Tea or biscuits!" ,
he asked, " Yahan pe Chang milega?",
I was exhausted and cranky and I did not have the heart to move an inch from my comfortable "non vibrating seat" like the one on Bullet on which my Bum was getting a constant grind  , but I swear I would have thrown a shoe/helmet/ any other heavy object at him!
But believe it or not,
180kms from Leh, the shopwala answers, "Haan ji. Hai!"

"Chang hai?" , all of us asked in unison.
" Mein leke aaonga. Aap yahan se vapas jaate waqt collect kar lena.". ( I will bring it and keep it at the shop. When you are returning  to Leh , collect it from me. )

On hearing this, Vignesh turns to look at me, his expression was as if he'd just won an Olympic Gold for India in some event where India has never won in its history!!
In return I wanted to say something witty, something nasty and rude but the pain in my nose, the over sized helmet having hit my head for over 3 hours, my shoulders aching with the heavy backpack and my bum bones on the verge of crushing into a thousand pieces, I thought it better to let go, this time!




( To be Continued....)











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